December 7, 2012 by thecuriousaquarius
Sometimes I find myself remembering a situation that happened a week, a month, or even a year ago and cringing. My actions or words were not chosen carefully in that one moment and I regret doing or saying something.
I know I can’t take it back.
But that doesn’t stop me from re-playing the scenario over and over in my head, wishing and hoping it had turned out differently.
So, why do I continue to dwell on things from the past that I know I cannot change? And when I think of these isolated situations where I didn’t put my best foot forward and hurt someone, I think of Maya Angelo’s quote:
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
And then I tend to feel a little worse about the whole thing. The good news is that I’ve tried to learn from these experiences and move forward. But I still grapple with “I should have done this” or “why did I have to say that?”
I know it cannot be changed but that doesn’t really seem to matter in the spiral staircase that is my mind. So maybe you can help me.
What do you do when you dwell on something from the past that you might regret, knowing that you cannot change it?